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Thursday, July 9, 2015

A Lifetime of Friendships

Once in a while you find girls who you know are going to be your friends for life.  They are the type of people who no matter how much or how little you talk to each other, you can always pick up right where you left off.  They are the ones who despite job changes, moving thousands of miles away, moving back home, getting married, having kids, and overall having life get in the way... they are the ones you know that you can always count on and that they will always be there for you.  They are the friends you know you can call at 2am when you life is falling apart or the ones you can call at 11pm to let them know that you are finally engaged.  They are the ones that you can't wait to share all the good and bad that life has to offer with.  Some people are lucky to find one or two of those girlfriends throughout their lives... I have been blessed to find a not only one or two of those kinds of girlfriends, but rather a few groups of them. I was reminded of this multiple times this week as finally I was able to find the time to hang out with some of my favorite ladies in the entire world, plus catch up via text message (and make plans to actually see) some of the others.

When I get to hang out with and talk to so many of these ladies I am reminded of how friendships come in all different styles.  I am also reminded of the fact that I truly do have some of the most amazing friends in the world, who I don't know what I would do without.  I know for some of them we may not talk as often as we would like, and definitely don't get to see each other as often as we would like... but I know that through thick and thin they will ALWAYS be there for me.

Since I am being all nostalgic today, I want to take a little time to thank all of my lifelong friends for all they have done for me over time!

You know someone is your lifelong friend when you have been friends since first grade and to this day still consider the other to be one of your best friends.


AW and I have officially been friends for about 24 of our 30 years on this planet.  We met in first grade and became friends almost by design.  Our parents had similar values... put us in the same organized sports, made us both join the Daisy Scouts and even ironically enough made us take swimming lessons with the same crazy marine.  As we got older and our lives took slightly different paths we always found our way back to each other.  In fact in high school we even had the same exact schedule one year with the exception of a couple of classes... and when we weren't in the same class our teachers would still think we were the other person.  Despite going to different colleges and following our post-college dreams, AW has always been someone I have known I can confide in.  We were friends during some of the best and worst times of our lives and despite everything our friendship has never faltered.  Sure we can go long periods of time without talking to each other because of our crazy schedules, but when we do finally get to see each other it is like we never ever lost touch.  I am so looking forward to being able to hopefully see her next week when I am at my parent's house in NJ for my dad's surgery.  And if I don't get to see her next week, I know we have an entire weekend away together coming up at the end of July and for that I am super excited!


You know someone is a lifelong friend when most of your friendship has been long distance and most of it has consisted of talking via AIM, MySpace, e-mail, Facebook, text message and sometimes actually phone calls.


CW and I have been friends since I guess about our freshman year of high school.  We met through a mutual friend when CW was already living in Florida.  I am honestly not even 100% sure why we started talking, but once we did, we never stopped.  CW actually grew up probably about a mile from my parent's house, but because she lived in Hillsdale and I lived in River Vale, we never actually got the pleasure of knowing each other. We became closer our sophomore year of high school despite an unfortunate situation that I wish had never happened, BUT I am thankful that it brought the two of us closer together.  CW and I definitely don't get to see each other nearly as often as we would like... but we make it happen when we can.  I talk to this girl pretty much every day and I don't know what I would do without her in my life.  We tell each other everything, much to our husband's chagrin... but we don't care.  Our friendship proves that even if you have never lived near each other a friendship can endure the distance as I think the closest we have ever lived is when I was in law school in DE and CW was working on her master's at Penn State State College... and even then we were living hundreds of miles apart!


You know someone is your lifelong friend when despite the fact that you are sorority sisters, you feel like you are actually sisters.


VM and I have been friends since our freshman year of Bucknell and became even better friends when we both decided to pledge the same sorority.  And I'm not going to lie, knowing that VM was pledging Chi Omega was one of the reasons I decided that I was definitely going to pledge as well.  VM and I were pretty much always together in college... living across the hall from each other or living a few doors down from each other.  And you could pretty much always find us getting ready to go out together and then actually going out together.  She is the friend who introduced me to the guy who would eventually be my husband.  We have shared a ton of good times along with some not so good times throughout our friendship, but through it all one thing has always remained... we have always been able to count on each other.  VM is another one of those friends where I know that even if we haven't talked in a while we can pick up right where we left off.  She is always up for an impromptu phone date or even dinner date when I had to go to Maryland for work!  Time spent catching up with each other is never long enough.  I am really hoping that we get to see each other in a couple of weeks for our annual lake trip!



You know someone is your lifetime friend when you are sorority sisters who weren't friends in college and can't figure out why because now you can't imagine your life without that person.


AV and I met in college when we both joined Chi Omega, but for some reason we never really became friends.  When AV moved to the suburbs of Philly I reached out to her because I remembered what it felt like to move to a new place where I didn't really know that many people.  From the first time we hung out after she moved here I realized that I had missed out on getting to know a fabulous girl when I was in college.  Since becoming closer we have both been in each others weddings; have had countless dinners and parties together with our husbands and friends; I had the honor of being responsible for picking up the cake for her gender reveal party along with the envelope containing the baby's gender; I have been able to celebrate the birth of their daughter and even Little Miss L's 1st birthday.  AV and her husband were also the only ones (besides my parents) who knew that Mark was going to propose to me and AV even kept it a secret when she was taking pain pills after having surgery and I visited her and was stressing over the fact that I didn't know if Mark was ever going to propose.  She was the one who told me that if he didn't get his act together and if I thought I needed a break that I could come live with her so I didn't have to move home.  Post-Bucknell this girl has been there for me through thick and thin and I can't imagine life without her!


You know someone is your lifetime friend when your little brother breaks up with them and they still are a bridesmaid in your wedding and you still talk to them pretty much all the time.


SP and I became friends when she was dating my little brother.  They dated for about three years during which time she became a huge part of my life.  She was the little sister I had always wanted. Then my brother broke up with her and I am not going to lie I was nervous about what that would do for our friendship.  Though I had told SP that I would completely understand if she no longer could be a part of my wedding, I secretly hoped that she would decide that she still wanted to be there.  Of course she did decide that she wanted to be a part of our day and that despite everything we were going to remain friends.  SP was actually the first person to know that Mark and I had gotten engaged, and that in and of itself really made me want her to be a part of our day.  Through it all if it is possible I think the two of us have gotten closer and I truly do think of her as the sister that I never had.  We spend time together whenever we can... going to hockey games, meeting up for meals, hanging out at home, etc.  I talk to this girl pretty much all the time and am so thankful that we have continued to be a part of each others' lives.  I so can't wait for a weekend away with this lady at the lake in a couple of weeks!!


You know someone is your lifetime friend when you survive law school together and are STILL friends.


RC and I met my last year of law school when we were in the Delaware Civil Clinic together.  Spending so much time together in our little clinic room we became great friends... giving each other advice, talking about wedding planning (she was engaged at the time... I wasn't), talking about our family, talking about pretty much everything.  She was the one who hung out with me on the day I found out that I didn't pass the Delaware Bar Exam... stopping to pick up dinner before coming over to hang out with me because Mark had to go to work and I was so upset and just didn't want to be alone.  We have been a part of each others' lives for our weddings... her first baby girl and her second baby on the way... birthday celebrations and more!  RC is another one of those friends that no matter how much life can get in the way we always find a way to get to see each other and when we do it is like not a day has passed without us talking.


You know a group of girls are your lifetime friends when they are the first friends you make when you move to a  new place... and then they remain your friend and you are even in each others' weddings.


This picture is what started all of this reminiscing about some of the amazing women I have in my life.  Although KT wasn't able to make it for breakfast, she was definitely there in spirit.  NS, JM, SS, EO, and KT were the first people I became friends with when I moved down this way for law school.  I remember being in a new place and thinking that I hated it down here because I had Mark, but that was about it.  Then I started working at Friday's where I met JG, NS and KT and realized that maybe life down here wouldn't be so bad.  KT then introduced us all to SS and EO and from then on we were an amazing group of friends.  From themed dinners together (remember our Twilight themed cooking escapade?!), to nights out in Trolley, to handstands outside of Fridays, to rolling down the side of 95, to body shots, to Phillies games, to snow days, to girls' nights in... times with these girls are always full of laughs.  Despite the fact that NS has moved all the way across the country and JM is getting ready to move South... one thing has remained... these girls are some of the best girlfriends I could have ever dreamed of having.  I never would have survived down here had I not met them and I am pretty sure I would have moved back home to NJ had it not been for them! 




You know a group of girls are your lifetime friends when you become friends through work, but stay friends through all the promotions, store changes, and all around drama that can surround work.


SC, MO, AF and I became friends through work... probably because for the longest time we all worked the same exact days.  Literally when we were servers we rotated through spots 1-4 and then when SC and I became bartenders we pretty much worked all of our shifts together and then once AF got on the bar we worked all of our shifts with her as well.  These girls have helped me regain my sanity after tough shifts... they have been there to help me stay sane during tough shifts.  Without these girls I never would have survived the restaurant life for as long as I have.  These ladies were some of the first people to know that Mark and I were engaged because when I couldn't get anyone on the phone I obviously called work because I knew they would be working. These girls always seem to understand what I am going through when life gets me down and I know I can always count on them to help pick me back up.  Every year I look forward to our annual KOP shopping trip in December... actually I look forward to ANY time I get to spend with these girls.  Due to work schedules we definitely don't get to see each other as often as we would like, but we make it happen whenever we can.  Whether it is impromptu afternoon lunch dates, drinks before work, Flyers games, Phillies games, or whatever, I know it will always be a good time with these girls.  I can't wait until Mark and I get a house because these girls were some of the first to volunteer to help me get the house in order... and by get the house in order they volunteered to bring the wine to celebrate the new house! 


Friendship definitely comes in all shapes and sizes and I am seriously the luckiest girl in the world to have so many great girlfriends who I know I can always count on.  To all my ladies mentioned in this post... my life would seriously not be the same without you and I am so thankful to know that you will all be my lifelong friends!  XOXO

Do you have any friends who you know will be your life long friends?

Tuesday, October 5, 2010

"Home" Away From Home

This weekend the bf and I went back to visit Bucknell for Family Weekend since it is my little brother's senior year and the last Family Weekend that we will be able to attend out there (unless of course our own kids go there, which is definitely a possibility).  Going back to Bucknell is always an amazing time for me because it really is my "home" away from home.  Bucknell was the first place I really felt like I belonged.  Every time I go back I get all nostalgic about the days when I was there and it's crazy to think about how my life has changed since graduating going on 4 years ago.

I remember my first day moving in to Bucknell.  I was really nervous to be moving away from home and to be sharing my room with someone for the first time. Thankfully my roomie ended up being really cool and I had a great freshman year living with her.
Roomie and I on our very FIRST day at Bucknell

That first year was a ton of fun... well minus the whole emergency alcohol thing.  I made a lot of amazing friends... dated a couple of different guys... and started on a journey that would shape who I have become today.  Freshman year when when I really decided that I wanted to be a lawyer after taking an intense international law class with a professor I couldn't stand (On an interesting side note, the same casebook I used my freshman year of Bucknell was the same casebook, albeit a later edition, that I used for international law during my 2nd year of law school).  That class helped solidify my idea that I wanted to be a Spanish major and that I wanted to be a lawyer.  I always thought I would do international law (in fact I even said that I wanted to practice international law on my law school application)... sure that changed, but the fact that I went to law school because of events during my freshman year at Bucknell didn't.
My Freshman Hall

Sue, Natalie and I before a beach themed party

Sophomore year at Bucknell was quite a challenge for me.  Although it was amazing because I joined Chi Omega and met some of the most amazing girls EVER it was still a really tough year for me.  A man who was like a 2nd father to me died and my boyfriend at the time was so obsessed with his fraternity that he chose to do stuff with the guys there (i.e. watch a baseball game or football game) instead of helping me when I was devastated.  Not too much longer we ended up breaking up and again I was devastated.  This guy was not only my boyfriend, but he was one of my best friends in the entire world.  We had known each other forever... literally.  We had gone to the same church together and had in a way grown up together.  His mom was (& still is) like another mom to me... at times I felt like she was there for me more than my own mother was.  After we broke up he started dating one of my friends/sorority sisters and that ended up being the end of not only my friendship with him, but also my friendship with her.  Definitely stinks to lose two friends as well as someone who was like a dad to me.  Sophomore year I was also an RA my first semester and had probably the world's worst hall EVER.  They were so poorly behaved that I ended up having to quit that.  The fact that my hall was so poorly behaved wasn't the only reason I quit, I also developed a bleeding stomach ulcer during that semester.  Overall it was just a rough year that I wasn't quite sure that I would recover from... but don't worry, I did!

Some of my favorite Chi Omegas before Midnight Mania

Celebrating Val's Bday at Arizona's (so sad it isn't there anymore :()

This is boyfriend eating Ramen Noodles the night I met him... maybe one day I'll share this story because well it's amazing that after this first night he ever wanted to date me.

Spring Break Soph Year in Ft. Lauderdale... this vaca helped me sooooo much!

Vedder 4SW (My Hall from when I was RA) minus the football players

Junior year was probably my favorite year at Bucknell because it included my semester abroad in Spain.  I don't remember too much about the Fall semester... probably because I spent a lot of it arguing with my parents about whether or not I was going to go abroad, and then finally agreeing to go abroad after they bribed me with a car.  Junior year included another boyfriend... this one was actually a carry over from sophomore year and one that my parents HATED.  Somehow I managed to date this guy for over a year until we broke up while I was studying abroad (ask me sometime why we broke up... it's actually a kind of hilarious story, but I'm not sure I should post it here on the off chance that he somehow manages to find this).  Had a lot of fun nights out with the Chi Omegas... gained a little sister (little #1)... and overall had a really good time. Then obviously in the Spring semester I went to Spain and that was the BEST time of my life.  Seriously, nothing can compare to the time I spent abroad in Spain.... I really don't think that anything in my life has been more amazing than the almost 6 months I spent over there.

Big & I at some sort of mixer with Chi Phi (I think based on looking at other pics from this night)

After the Bucknell v. Nova basketball game

Twin, Big & I during Big's Dirt Poem

Roomie & I out in Granada

La Alhambra... one of my fav places on earth

La Sagrada Familia in Barcelona

Got to visit 2 of my favorite guys in the world in Luton

Going out in Italia during Spring Break (right after I broke up with my bf... fyi, Italia = perfect place to get over an ex)

Of course I went to Paris as well!

Bucknell en Espana... the whole group

Beautiful View of Nerja

After an amazing semester in Spain it was back to Bucknell for one final semester.  That final semester was rough... first off because I had a hard time adjusting to being back at Bucknell and then it was rough leaving because I met boyfriend and then had to go an graduate before we had even been dating a month.  Sometimes I wonder what it would have been like if I hadn't graduated early, but in retrospect I'm glad that I did it because well it gave me the opportunity to work some before leaving for law school.

 Boyfriend & I before we started dating... note that I'm wearing the sweatshirt I ALWAYS stole from him

Celebrating my 22nd Birthday back in NJ

Jersey Bff... Miss this chica sooooo much!

Me  & Little #2

Me & Little #1

Best Friends since Freshman Year :)

Angels @ the Townie T over Homecoming

Cell Phone Pic of Boyfriend & I

Since graduating I have gone back to Bucknell I can't tell you how many times.  It helps that I had a little brother who started the year after I graduated... but I think I would have gone back anyway.  Sorry for such a long post, I'll stop writing now, but I'll leave you with a few post-graduation pictures from Bucknell.

Boyfriend & me @ the "P" Party when I came back to visit after graduating

Famous Couples Date Party

Homecoming 2007

Sammy Boys at their 100 year Anniversary Dinner

Rooke Chapel.... where I hope to get married one day

We walk through these gates when we start at Bucknell and back out for graduation

Cows on the Way to Lewisburg

Bucknell v. Cornell Football Game

Us on our most recent visit to Bucknell this past weekend <3